came a pivotal time of reflection. As I began to think about my year
past and my life as a whole, measuring where I am to where I want to
be, I had
an epiphany of sorts. Or, maybe I just finally noticed the obvious.
For the past ten years I have been a serial dater and have been on
plenty of first dates. Dates are a tricky thing, especially first
dates. They can be nerve wrecking, leaving men and women alike full of
anxiety and confusion as they try to formulate a way of making a good
first impression. I lived for
these moments. The prospect and challenge of meeting someone new, and
seeing where it could lead, was
an exhilarating feeling that often fueled my pursuit of several women
simultaneously. Those many conversations, over coffee,
ice cream, vodka etc. has had a hand in shaping me. In essence, ten
years of experience coupled
with extensive research has
helped me to write a book and to become an expert on the subject. With
that said, Here Are 10 First Date Mistakes He'll Judge
You For:
1) LOCATION! – Absolutely no first dates in the living room, yours or
his. This sends the wrong message to a man. It tells him that you are
entirely too comfortable too soon. If you spend the first date on his
couch, where will you spend the second?
WHat Time IS It? – Grandma said it best, "Ain't nothing open After a
certain time but legs." The later the hour the more relaxed you become
making it especially hard to pay attention to detail, which is
imperative on a first date. Also, dates earlier in the day allow for
more flexibility.
For example, if you hit it off you may want to add another activity to
the date that wasn't originally planned.
ClOthes Are Necessary. – Men are visual. The first thing
we see often determines the
first thing we think. So,
remember to dress
appropriately. Yes be sexy! But don't let it all hang out. Leave
something for the imagination; guessing is good as it adds to a man's
intrigue.
NO Job Interviews. – "Where do you work?" "How much do
you make?" "What are your
future plans?" No one likes to be bombarded with a ton of questions
during a first
encounter. Cultivating conversation and listening
intently will reveal everything
that you need to know about him.
ATTITUDE. – Believe it or not men are often nervous on first dates, so
smile, be approachable.
He is busy trying to make a good first impression, so throw him a
bone [unless, of course, he's a dog.]
Don't get too cozy. – Refuse to be blinded by his charm and your
attraction to him. Don't become too comfortable. No sensual touching
or hugging and cuddling on the
first date. Men will often test you in this to see how far they can
get which we, at times, use
to measure how easy it will be to get you in bed.
Marriage!? Yikes! – Take it easy. Too serious and intimate of a
conversation can potentially scare him off. Slow walk it (him).
Let's Talk About Sex. – Just not on the first date. Your
conversation tells a lot about
where your mind is, revealing a piece of your character. Men observe
this and act accordingly. Conversation goes a long way in creating the
perceptions of the
mind. Remember that.
Insecurities. – Insecurity is either a turn on or a turn off, either
way you lose. It is
important to be sure of yourself and to project that. Confidence
is contagious but the absence of it cannot be hidden. Be confident in
who you are! Real men find
that sexy!
Go Home…..Alone! – We are all adults and have the right to do what we
please with our bodies,
but when looking to establish a healthy relationship, sex on the first
date is not the way to go. If you give him all of you on the first
date, he has no incentive to pursue you how you truly deserve to be
pursued.
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