YOu KnOw The First Time? What If That Wasn't LOve? What If It Was Just
InfatuatiOn Or ObsessiOn? HOw Can YOu Tell The All-ImpOrtant
Difference Between LOve And Its Deceiving Look alikes So That YOu Can
Have The RelatiOnship Of YOur Dreams And NOt YOur Nightmares?
It COuld Be Said That InfatuatiOn Is Primarily An EmOtiOnal
Phenomenon-- YOu See SOmebOdy And YOu're Hooked; That ObsessiOn Is
Primarily A Physical Psychological Phenomenon-- That YOu're Addicted
To HOw This PersOn That YOu Need This PersOn To Survive; And That LOve
Is Primarily A Spiritual Phenomenon-- That TwO SOuls, Each WhOle And
COmplete In Themselves, COme TOgether And Create A Third Entity All
Its Own- The RelatiOnship.
What Are SOme Other MajOr Differences Between InfatuatiOn, ObsessiOn, And LOVE?
♣ INFATUATION:-
InfatuatiOn Is That Giddy, Butterflies-In-The-StOmach Feeling That YOu
Get Everytime That Other PersOn Is ArOund.
The Flood Of Relief That COmes FrOm Finally NOt Feeling LOnely AnymOre.
A Fickle FOrce That's Here TOday And GOne TomOrrow; A Flimsy FOrce
WithOut Much Depth Or Substance.
...Fast-- It Usually Happens In An Instant.
...FOunded On Passion And Pleasure.
...Based In FANTASY.
There's NOthing Inherently WrOng With InfatuatiOn, So LOng As It Is
RecOgnized As Such. InfatuatiOn Is Only PrOblematic If It's Mistaken
FOr Real LOVE. Having A Crush On SOmeOne Is NOt The Same As Falling In
LOve With Them; That's MOre Sexual AttractiOn Than Anything Else.
Infact, YOu DOn't "Fall Into" LOve At All, YOu Walk Into It HeadlOng,
Fully Aware Of What YOu're DOing, With YOur Eyes Wide Open. YOu GrOw
LOve Over Time, Nurturing It. YOu Give LOve. MOst Cases Of "LOve At
First Sight" (Though NOt All) AmOunt To Little MOre Than InfatuatiOn.
At This Stage-- Which In The BEST Of Cases Precedes LOve And In The
WOrst Precedes Resentment, Loathing, And LOneliness-- The Other PersOn
Is MOre An Object Than A Human Being, InfatuatiOn Objectifies And
Idealize The Other PersOn As The Fulfilment Of All One's Unfulfilled
Fantasies, Wishes. And Desires; These Are IllusiOns That Are Destined
To Be DestrOyed-- Even If... Especially If That InfatuatiOn Is To GrOw
And EvOlve IntO Genuine LOVE.
OBSESSION IS••••
....Feeling Like YOu Can't Live WithOut The Other PersOn. NOt Being
Able To Get Them Off YOur Mind FOr Even A MOment. A Destructive FOrce
FOr BOth YOu And Other PersOn. ...Interminable--LOng And Drawn Out,
With No End In Sight. ...FOunded On Lust And Self-LOathing Based In
Pathology.
YOu Can Think Of ObsessiOn As InfatuatiOn GOne Awry. When SOmeOne
FOrms An Unhealthy Attachment To AnOther, They Begin To LOse EmOtiOnal
COntrOl.
With That LOss Of EmOtiOnal COntrOl COmes A LOss Of Self-COntrOl Which
Is HOw Obsessive RelatiOnships Can BecOme DangerOus FOr BOth The
Subject And Object Of The ObsessiOn. What Starts Off With The ObsessOr
BecOming AnxiOus AbOut LOsing The Other PersOn, Neurotic In Their
BehaviOr ArOund And AbOut The Other PersOn, And Even ParanOid AbOut
The Other PersOn Cheating On Them, Can Rapidly Descend Into ViOlence
And Abuse.
♣ LOVE IS....
Wanting To Care FOr The Other PersOn, Take Care Of Them, PrOtect Them,
And Keep Them Safe... Putting Them First And YOurself SecOnd.
Wanting To Be YOur Best, Highest Self As A Gift Of Gratitude To Them,
Because They Deserve It, And Because They've Given YOu So Much.
Accepting Them As They Are, Warts And All, And KnOwing That They
Accept YOu The Same.
A Healing FOrce FOr BOth YOu And The Other PersOn.
SlOw Taking Time TO DevelOp. A Feeling FOunded On Respect, Trust, And
AdmiratiOn Based On Reality.
The Media Has BrOught Us Up With A Flawed And Faulty ImpressiOn Of
What LOve Is. MOre Than Half Of All Marriages End In DivOrce. With All
These Negative, DysfunctiOnal Images Of So-Called LOve Everywhere
ArOund Us, Is It Any WOnder That We As A Culture Have Such A Hard Time
RecOgnizing LOve When We Fee It? And When We Do Find LOve, That We
Have Such A Hard Time"HOlding Onto "It.
Many PeOple Believe That The Best RelatiOnships Are The Ones That
Start Out As Friendships First. And While This Is NOt Always The Case,
It Speaks To An Excellent POint--That ROmantic COmpatibility Requires
COmpatibility Of The Same Characteristics That WOuld Matter To YOu In
A Friend. MOst PeOple In Healthy RelatiOnships Say That Their Partner
Is Their Best Friend. So When YOu Seek Out A POtential Partner Or
Mate, Seek Out The Same Qualities Of PersOn That YOu WOuld Seek Out In
A CLOse Friend-- Integrity, PersOnality, Sense Of Right And WrOng,
GenerOsity, POsitive Outlook On Life, Good Sense Of Self, And SO On.
That's HOw YOu Can Attract And Start To Cultivate A ROmantic
RelatiOnship Based On LOve And NOt InfatuatiOn Or ObsessiOn. Because
Remember: External Beauty Is Fleeting, But Inner Beauty Lasts A
Lifetime.
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