Differently. wE All RecOgnize SOme Of These Differences, But Others
Often Hide In Plain Sight. Shaunti Feldhahn, A NatiOnally Syndicated
Newspaper COlumnist, Author And Speaker WrOte A Fantastic Book, "FOr
WOmen Only: What YOu Need To KnOw About The Inner Lives Of Men. In It,
She Recounts The Truths She Learned AbOut Men After Interviewing MOre
Than 1,000 Of Them. I Had The OppOrtunity Of Having A Chat With Her
Online. In Our DiscussiOn, We SpOke AbOut 10 Things Guys Wish WOmen
Knew AbOut MEN. I Think YOu'll Find These Things Fascinating! Even
MOre, I Believe That In Understanding These Issues, YOu'll Be Equipped
To Lead YOur Marriage To A Better Place!
#1. MEN WOULD RATHER FEEL UNLOVED THAN INADEQUATE AND DISRESPECTED.
Husbands Need To KnOw That Their Wives Respect Them BOth Privately And
Publicly. Men Thrive When They KnOw That Their Wives Trust Them,
Admire Them And Believe In Them. Shaunti Feldhahn's Research Indicated
That Men WOuld Rather Sense The LOss Of LOving Feelings FrOm Their
Wives Than To Be Disrespected By Them.
#2. A MAN'S ANGER IS OFTEN A RESPONSE TO FEELING DISRESPECTED BY HIS WIFE.
When A Husband BecOmes Angry With His Wife, He May NOt COme Out And
Say, "YOu're Disrespecting Me!" But, There Is A Good Likelihood That
He Is Feeling Stung By SOmething His Wife Has DOne Which He COnsiders
Disrespectful And HumiliatiNG.
#3. MEN ARE INSECURE.
Men Are Afraid That They Ain't Cutting It In Life--NOt Just At WOrk,
BUt At HOme, In Their ROle As A Husband. They May Never Vocalize This,
But Inwardly, They Are Secretly Vulnerable. The AntidOte? AFFIRMATION:
To Men, AffirmatiOn FrOm Their Wives, They'll Seek It Elsewhere. When
They Receive Regular And Genuine AffirmatiOn FrOm Their Wives (NOt
Flattery, By The Way), They BecOme Much MOre Secure And COnfident In
All Areas Of Their Lives.
#4. MEN FEEL THE BURDEN OF BEING THE PROVIDER FOR THEIR FAMILY.
Intellectually, It DOesn't Matter HOw Much Or Little A Man Makes, Or
Whether Or NOt His Wife Makes MOre Or Less MOney In Her Career. Men
Simply Bear The EmOtiOnal Burden Of PrOviding FOr Their Family. It's
NOt A Burden They've ChOsen To Bear. Men Are Simply Wired With This
Burden. As Such, It Never Far FrOm Their Minds And Can Result In The
Feeling Of Being Trapped. While Wives CannOt Release Their Husbands
FrOm This Burden, They Can Relieve It ThrOugh A Healthy DOse Of
AppreciatiOn, EnCOuragement And Support.
#5. MEN WANT MORE SEX.
EveryOne's Natural RespOnse To This Is PrObably, "Duh!" But, That
RespOnse Is PrObably FOr The WrOng ReasOn. We Primarily Assume That
Men Want MOre SEX With Their Wives Due To Their Physical Wiring (Their
"Needs") But, Surprisingly, Shaunti Feldhahn's Research ShOwed That
The ReasOn Men Want MOre Sex Is Because Of Their StrOng Need To Be
Desired By Their Wives. MEn Simply Need To Be Wanted. Regular,
Fulfilling Sex Is Critical To A Man's Sense Of Feeling LOved And
Desired.
#6. SEX MEANS MORE THAN SEX:
When Men Feel Their Wives Desire Them Sexually, It Has A PrOfound
Effect On The Rest Of Their Lives. It Gives Them An Increasing Sense
Of COnfidence And Well-Being That Carries Over Into Every Other Area
Of His Life. The Flipside Of This COin Also Carries PrOfoundly
Negative Effect. When A Husband Feels Rejected Sexually, He NOt Only
Feels His Wife Is Rejecting Him Physically, But That She Is SOmehOw
Rejecting His Life As A Husband, PrOvider And Man. This Is Why Making
Sex A PriOrity In Marriage Is So Incredibly ImpOrtant!
#7. MEN STRUGGLE WITH VISUAL TEMPTATION.
This Means The Vast MajOrity Of Men RespOnd To Visual Images When It
COmes To WOmen. And, This DOesn't Just Mean The Guys With Wandering
Eyes. Even The MOst gOdly Husband CannOt AvOid NOticing A WOman WhO
Dresses In A Way That Draws AttentiOn To Her BOdy. Even If It Is Just
A Glance, These Visual Images Are StOred Away In The Male Brain As A
SOrt Of "Visual Rolodex"; That Will Reappear WithOut Any Warning. Men
Can Choose Whether To Dwell On These Images And MemOries Or Dismiss
Them, But They Can't COntrOl When These Images Appear.
#8. MEN ENJOY ROMANCE, BUT DOUBT THEIR SKILLS TO BE ROMANTIC:
True, mANY Men Appear To Be UnrOmantic ClOds, But It DOesn't Mean That
They Want To Be That Way! Men Want To Be ROmantic, But They Just DOubt
Their Ability To Pull It Off. They Are Plagued By Internal
HesitatiOns. Perceiving The Risk Of HumiliatiOn And Failure As Too
High. Wives Can Do A Great Deal To Increase Their Husband's COnfidence
In Their ROmantic Skills ThrOugh EncOuragement And Redefining What
ROmance Looks Like.
#9. MEN CARE ABOUT THEIR WIFE'S APPEARANCE:
This Isn't Saying That All Men Want Their Wives To Look Like The
Latest SuperMOdel. What Men Really Want Is To KnOw That Their Wives
Are Making EffOrt To Take Care Of Themselves. Husbands Appreciate The
EffOrts Their Wives Make To Maintain Their Attractiveness.
#10. MEN WANT THEIR WIFE'S TO KNOW HOW MUCH THEY LOVE THEM:
This Was The Number One RespOnse Of Men. Men Aren't COnfident In Their
Ability To Express This, But They LOve Their Wives Dearly. Men Want To
ShOw HOw Much They LOve Their Wives And LOng FOr Them To Understand
This FACT.
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