A Bad BOy Is A MAN Who Seems Outwardly Attractive, But Is Unwilling To
Offer Sacrificial LOve In A RelatiOnship. He Is Too Immature And
PreOccupied With Himself To Share Genuine COmpassiOn, COncern, Or
Acceptance. A Bad BOy Lacks Character And Might Exhibit The FOllOwing
BehaviOur: Lying, Aloofness, IrrespOnsible Dreaming, Fear Of
COmmitment, SeXUAL PrOmiscuity, AddictiOn To Substances Or
Pornography, Selfishness, Hunger FOr POwer, Disinterest In
Surrendering To GOD, E.t.c.
In AdditiOn, A Bad BOy Is NOt Interested In True LOVE, Because Real
LOve Requires COnsistent Sacrifice. A Bad BOy Will Only Sacrifice FOr
SOmeOne If It's COnvenient FOr Him Or If He Gets SOmething In Return.
He Expects The WOman To Do MOst Of The Giving, While He IgnOres Her
Needs Or Takes Advantage Of Her. Yet, Why Do SOme GOdly Girls Find
Themselves Attracted To Bad BOys???
Three Key Beliefs Can COntribute To This PrOblem:
REASON #1- HE CAN BE FIXED.
SOme WOmen AllOw Their "Nurturing Instinct" To Affect WhOm They Choose
To Date. In Other WOrds, A Nice Girl May View A Bad BOy As A
"PROJECT" Or SOmeOne WhOm She Can "Fix."
This Incident Occurs When A WOman AcknOwledges That Her BOyfriend Has
Character Flaws, Yet Believes She Can Help Him Mature Or Over COme His
PrOblems. Helping A Man To "GROW UP" Can Play Into A WOman's Sense Of
Significance.
Also, iF A WOman Was Abused Or IgnOred By Her Father, She May NOt KnOw
HOw To Identify Character Or Real LOVE. WOrse, She May SubcOnciouslY
Think That Her Past Pain Can Be Erased By Marrying A Bad BOy And
Making Everything WOrk Out Right.
The Fallacy Of This Belief Is That It's ImpOssible To Make A Man
ImprOve His Character. He May Fake Integrity Over The ShOrt-Term, But
A Man Will Only Mature When He Makes The DecisiOn Himself.
REASON #2- HE PURSUED ME:
Bad BOys Tend To Be More Assertive Than Nice Guys When It COmes To
Initiating A Dating RelatiOnship. Since Most WOmen Want A Man To
Pursue Them, This Aggressive Approach Can Feel Appealing. In AdditiOn,
A Bad BOy May Seem Driven To Make SOmething Out Of Himself. WOmen
Prefer A Man WhO Seems To Have PurpOse In Life. In Other WOrds, "Nice
Guys" Wait Too LOng To Initiate RelatiOnships Or DOn't Seem To Be
GOing Anywhere In Life.
One LessOn That Nice GuYs Can Learn FrOm Bad BOys Is To FOllOw ThOse
Inner Desires To Make Them COme ALIVE.
REASON #3- HE'S SO EXCITING:
Our SOciety GlamOrizes The Bad BOy Attitude- Just Look At Who We
COnsider The Most POpular Singers And ActOrs. Bad BOys Draw AttentiOn
To Themselves, And Their POpularity Or Playful PersOnality Can Be Very
Attractive. The NOtoriety Of Dating A Bad BOy Can TOuch A WOman's Need
FOr Acceptance And Significance.
Thus Good Girls Beware. A Bad BOy May ShOwer YOu With COmpliements,
AttentiOn, And Excitement, But The Moment YOu Cease To Keep Him Happy-
He Will LOse Interest In YOu. Soon, He's Off Looking FOr AnOther WOman
To Indulge His SELFISH HEART.
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