Guilty Of Any Of These Bad Habits, YOu COuld Be Putting YOur
COnnectiOn With YOur Man At Risk•
1• YOu Give And Give And Give And Give:
Have YOu Heard The One AbOut DOting Girlfriend WhO Gave Her Heart To A
Guy FOr Three Years, Only FOr Him To Say That He's NOt The Marrying
Kind? And When They Break Up, He Turns ArOund And PrOposes To SOme
Bitch (and We Do Mean Bitch!), Three MOnths Later.
"I See It All The Time, "COnfesses Randi Gunther, PhD, COuples
COuselor, And AuthOr Of The Book "RelatiOnship Saboteurs." WOmen KnOw
They Have The Capacity To Nurture And Care FOr Men, And Will Be
Extremely Giving. The PrOblem Is When A WOman HOlds It Against Her
Partner- As She's A Matyr- And The Guy Suddenly Feels Very Guilty And,
Even WOrse, Obligated. A Man Likes A Bith Because She Has Her Own
Agenda That Isn't All AbOut Him; He Likes That He's NOt TOtally
RespOnsible FOr Her Happiness."
If YOu Enjoy Being A Giving PersOn, Then By All Means, Keep It Up.
Just Understand That It's Like Putting MOney Into A Bank That Has A
HOle On The BOttOm- YOu Can't Expect To Cash In (Say, Like FOr A
COmmitment FrOm A Guy). Do Nice Things Because YOu Want To- And NOt
Because YOu Expect A Pay Back, And DOn't FOrget To Be A Little Selfish
Too.
2• YOU OVERCOMMUNICATE:
With All The Facebooking, Tweeting, IMing, E-Mailing, And Texting
GOing On, It Might Feel Impossible To NOt COmmunicate A LOt With YOur
BOyfriend Or Husband, At LeaSt Indirectly. But All That Extraneous
InfO AbOut What YOu're DOing Dissolves YOur Alluring Mystery, Warns
Ian Kerner, PhD, Sex Therapist, And Author Of She COmes First•
"I Actually Unfriended My Wife On Facebook," He Admits. "We've All
Heard The Phrase That Familiarity Breeds COntempt, But In This Age Of
SOcial Networking, Perhaps Familiarity Breeds SOmething WOrse:
BOREDOM."
Keep SOme Of YOur Mystery- And Mask YOur Mundane Day- To- Day Life- By
Resisting The Urge To Check In With YOur Guy COntantly. And Ditch All
The Dumb Updates About What YOu Had FOr Breakfast. We PrOmise YOu That
No. One. Cares•
3• YOu Air All YOur FrustratiOns To YOur Friends:
Admit It: A Good Venting Sesh With YOur Girls Feels Great. YOu Get To
Rant AbOut HOw YOu Think YOur Man Was Checking Out AnOther Girl Last
Saturday, Or HOw YOu Can't Believe He Wants To Buy A New Car When He
COuld Be Saving MOney FOr An Enagagement Ring. But COntantly Telling
YOur Friends YOur Gripes- Even The Smallest Stuff- Can Sabotage YOur
RelatiOnship, Says Gunther.
"YOur Friends Want To SuppOrt YOu, Will Sympathize With YOu, And WOn't
Challenge YOu, "Explains Gunther. "So Then EveryOne COmes Away FrOm
The Chat With The Deep Opinion That YOur BOyfriend Or Husband Is
Usually In The WRONG."
All YOur Bitching And MOaning Can Have A Lasting Effect On HOw YOur
Friends Feel AbOut YOur Guy, And Eventually They'll StOp Supporting
YOur RelatiOnship Because They Remember Every Last Jerky Thing He's
DOne. NOt Good. So, BOttom Line? YOu DOn't Have To Cut The Chick Chat
Altogether... But TOne It DOwn, And Be Sure To Tell Them AbOut The
Nice Things He DOes Every Once In A While Too. YOu'll Feel Much Better
AbOut YOur RelatiOnship Overall If YOu Remind YOurself FrOm Time To
Time That He's A Good Guy•
4• YOu COnfuse HOpes With Realistic ExpectatiOns:
Have YOu Ever Fantasized AbOut YOur BOyfriend DOing SOmething Special
Special- Say ThrOwing A Surprise Birthday Party FOr YOu- And Then
Thought About It So Much That When It Didn't Happen, YOu Were
Genuinely Disappointed? Maybe YOu Even GOt A Little Mad That All He
Did Was Get YOu A Cupcake And Sweater FrOm Express.
This Kind Of BehaviOr Can Wreak Havoc On YOur BOnd.
"YOu Can't Walk Into A RelatiOnship With A Script," Says Gunther.
"It's Fine To HOpe FOr Certain Things FrOm YOur Man, But They Need To
Be Based On SOme Realistic POtential Of Actually Being Satisfied."
In Other WOrds, If YOur BOyfriend Never Plans Weekend Getaways, StOp
Disappointing YOurself By Daydreaming That He'll Whisk YOu Away To A
B&B. FOcus On The Stuff YOur Guy DOes Right (Rather Than What He's NOt
DOing), And YOu'll Strengthen- NOt Sabotage-YOur LOve COnnectiOn•
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