But FOr Single Parents Looking To Blend NOt Just Lives (And Pets) But
Entire Families, Dating Takes On An Entirely New Level Of COmplexity.
YOu Have MOre Than YOur Own Current And Future Well-Being To Think
AbOut; YOu Have The Current And Future Well-Being Of YOur Child(ren)
To Think AbOut As Well.
With That In Mind, Here Are Six ImpOrtant Dating Guidelines FOr The
Single Parent:
1• DOn't POst InfOrmatiOn AbOut YOur Children On YOur Dating PrOfile:
This Includes Photos Of YOu With YOur Children, Or InfOrmatiOn AbOut
YOur Children Including Names, Ages, Or Where They Go To School. As A
Single Parent, YOu KnOw That YOur Child's Safety Is YOur Highest
Priority. It Is Simply Unwise, And Unnecessary, To Divulge InfOrmatiOn
AbOut YOur Kids.
Respecting YOur Children's Privacy Is ImpOrtant FOr A Number Of
ReasOns, Safety Being One Of Them•
2• DOn't IntrOduce SOmeOne To YOur Child(ren) Until The RelatiOnship
Is Getting SeriOus:
When A Dating RelatiOnship DOesn't WOrk Out, The Breakup Can Actually
Be Harder On Children Than The Parent. YOu Can PrOtect YOur Child(ren)
FrOm Needless Heartache And LOss By NOt IncOrporating Casual Dating
Partners Into Their Lives•
Naturally, Keeping YOur Children And YOur Dates FrOm CrOssing Paths
Isn't Always 100% Possible Or Even Advisable, But Do Seek To Shield
YOur Children As Much As POssible FrOm The Hurt Or DisillusiOnment
That Can COme FrOm BOnding With PeOple WhO May NOt Play A LOng Term
ROle In YOur Life And In The Life Of YOur Children•
3• DOn't Rush Into Anything:
Rushing Into A New RelatiOnship Is NOt Advisable Under Any
Cirumstances And DOubly So When There Are Children Involved. Hurrying
Into A RelatiOnship Increases The Odds Of An Ensuing Breakup Or-Even
WOrse- NOT Breaking Up And Finding YOurself Married To The WrOng
PersOn. This NOt Only Wreaks Havoc And Heartache In YOur Life, But In
YOur Children's Lives As Well•
4• DOn't AllOw YOur New Partner To Discipline YOur Children:
The TemptatiOn May Be To Try To Fit The PersOn YOu're Dating Into The
ROle Of The Missing Parent In YOur Family. DOn't Do It! Children
Rarely RespOnd Well To Parental Discipline FrOm PeOple Outside The
Family, Plus It Can Leave YOur Child ExpOsed To POtential Abuse. Even
If YOu Marry SOmeOne, The Dynamics Of A Stepparent/Stepchild
RelatiOnship Are Very Different FrOm ThOse Of A Parent/Child
RelatiOnship. If YOu Are In A Serious RelatiOnship With SOmeOne, Read
Books Or Attend COunseling TOgether To Learn HOw To Engage YOur
Children In A Healthy Step-parent RelatiOnship•
5• DOn't MOdel Behavior YOu WOuldn't Want YOur Child To Emulate In
Their Own Dating RelatiOnships:
Is The Physical Aspect Of YOur New RelatiOnships BecOming "Too Much Too Soon"?
Are YOu Putting Up With Disrespect Or Mistreatment FrOm SOmeOne YOu're
Dating? Make Sure YOur Children See YOu Engage With The Opposite SEX
In Ways That Are Healthy And AlsO In Line With YOur MOral Or Religious
Beliefs•
As YOu Date, It's Also A Great Opportunity FOr YOu To MOdel "HOuse
Rules" YOu Expect YOur Kids To FOllOW When They Are Old EnOugh To
Date. FOr Example, If YOu Tell YOur Teenage Daughter She's NOt Allowed
To Hang Out In Her Bedroom With BOys, Be Prepared To FOllow The Same
Rule In YOur Own Dating Life. Granted, Parents Are Exempt FrOm Many Of
The Rules They Establish FOr Their Kids. Nevertheless, Helping YOur
Children Make Wise Choices And Establish Healthy BOundaries In Their
Own Dating Relationships Is Best Served When They've Seen YOu DOing
The SAME•
6• DOn't Ask YOur Children To Like PeOple WhO Are TOxic In Any Way:
SOmetimes PeOple Who Are Falling In LOve-Or WhO Want Desperately To
Fall In LOve-Overlook Bad Behaviour In SOmeOne They're Dating, HOping
The ObjectiOnable ActiOns Or Attitudes Will Eventually Go Away. It
Probably WOn't. In The Meantime, Children Are ExpOsed To That Same Bad
Behavior. If SOmeOne YOu're Dating Is Critical, Unreliable,
Untrustworthy, Angry, VOlatile, Or Narcissistic- And Especially When
YOu WOnder If The PersOn Is Capable Of Hurting YOu Or YOur Children-
It's Best To End The RelatiOnship. DOn't ExpOse YOur Children To This
PersOn Any LOnger. And Especially DOn't Ask YOur Children To Like This
PersOn.
Dating Has Its COmplexities In Every Stage Of Life, And Dating While
Raising Children Brings Added COmplicatiOns. By Seeking Out
EmOtionally Healthy Dating Partners, Taking YOur Time To DeveLOP A
Stable RelatiOnship, Then Taking YOur Time Integrating That PersOn
IntO The Lives Of YOur Children, Single Parents Can AvOid Many
Pitfalls And EnjOy MOre Of The Blessings That COme With DevelOping A
RelatiOnship With SOmeOne SPECIAL•
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