While It's ImpOssible To Gauge In Advance Whether Any COuple Will
Actually Make It 'Til Death Do They Part, There Are SOme COmpatibilitY
FactOrs That Offer Insight As To Whether They've GOt A Fighting
Chance. While YOu PrObably Can't Straight Out Ask YOur Partner Whether
Or NOt He Or She Is Physically Or Verbally Abusive, A Cheater, Or An
Addict- All Of Which Rank AmOng The MOst POpular ReasOns FOr
Splitsville- YOu Can And ShOuld Sit DOwn And Ask Each Other The
FOllowing QuestiOns. If YOur Perspectives Match Up, YOu Have A Better
Chance Of Making It FOr The LOng Haul.
1• DO YOU WANT KIDS?
There Is No ReasOn To Get Married Or SeriOusly Invest In One AnOther
If YOu DOn't See Eye-To-Eye On This Matter - Unless YOu're Willing To
Be Swayed. But DOn't Even Think AbOut Entering Marriage With The HOpe
That YOu Can Change YOur Partner's Mind. It's A Recipe FOr Disaster If
YOu're WrOng. If YOu Find YOu BOth Want Kids, YOu Might FOllow Up With
A QuestiOn AbOut HOw Much ParticipatiOn YOur Partner WOuld Want To
Have In Diaper Changing And BeyOnd!
2• WHAT'S YOUR IDEAL SEX LIFE?
While There's No One Right DefinitiOn Of A Great Sex Life, There Is
Definitely A WrOng One- And That's TwO PeOple WhO Have Opposing Views
And Desires. It's Better To Talk NOw AbOut SEXUAL Preferences,
Desires, HOpes And ExpectatiOnS Than After YOu Put A Ring On It!
3• WHAT's YOUR FINANCIAL STANDING?
Surely YOu'll COme Up With A MOre PersOnalized, Delicate Way To Broach
This Subject, But Whatever The Case, YOu Must Learn The Financial
Standing Of The PersOn YOu're Getting SeriOus With. Why? Because As A
Married COuple, Their Debt. Plus, YOu Can Get A LOt Of Insight IntO A
PersOn's Level Of RespOnsibility And Overall Financial Outlook If YOu
KnOw What They've Saved, LOst, Or BOrrowed And Still Owe Up Until This
POINT•
4• WHAT ARE YOUR SPENDING HABITS?
SOme PeOple Are Savers, Others Are Spenders. Often The Opposites
Attract Rule COmes IntO Play Between These TwO Archetypes. But If YOur
Idea Of A Wise Investment Is Tucking Away YOur Extra Cash FOr
Retirement While YOur Mate's Features Trips To Vegas And SpOrts Cars,
yOu're Destined To Clash. This Is NOt SOmething To Take Lightly Since
Finances Are One Of The TOp Causes FOr Divorce•
5• WHERE DO YOU STAND ON RELIGION?
While YOu PrObably KnOw Basics, YOu Might Like To KnOw HOw Much YOur
Partner Is Expecting The Church, Synagogue, MOsque, Or Others To Play
A Part In YOur Lives, As Well As YOur Children's Lives ShOuld YOu Have
Them•
6• WOULD YOU BE WILLING TO GO TO THERAPY OR COUNSELING IF WE NEEDED IT?
One Of The TOp ReasOns FOr Breakups Is A BreakdOwn In COmmunicatiOn Or
A General Lack ThereOf. That's Why It's Really ImpOrtant To KnOw
Whether YOur Partner WOuld Be Open To Learning MOre AbOut Him Or
Herself And Getting Help ThrOugh A COuples Therapist, If It Ever
BEcomes Necessary. If YOu Get A FLAT-OUT "NO," yOu KnOw What yOu're
Getting yOurself IntO•
7• WHAT ARE YOUR EXPECTATIONS OF LIFE TOGETHER?
SOme PeOple Want LOts Of Independence, Others Crave COnstant
COmpanionship. SOme Want Their Partner To Put Dinner On The Table
Every Night, While Others Are Happy With A Life Of Takeout. FrOm
SOcializing To VacatiOns To SEX To HOusehOld And Financial ROles And
RespOnsibilities, Getting A Clearer Picture Of ExpectatiOns Tells YOu
Whether Or NOt YOu And YOur Partner's Desires Match Up•
8• WHERE DO YOU ENVISION LIVING IN THE LONG RUN?
While JObs And Life Can Take COuples Places They Never Imagined GOing,
It's A Good Idea To See If YOu At Least Have The Same Type Of
Lifestyle In Mind. FOr Example, SOme PeOple Want To Be In The City Or
The COuntry. Where YOu Live Has A Direct Impact On YOur Lifestyle And
COnsequently Can Make FOr A Happier Or MOre Stressed Existence•
What QuestiOns Do YOu Think Are ImpOrtant To Ask BefOre Getting
SeriOus, MOving In TOgether Or Tying The KnOt?
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