SOME Women Have Dreamed Of Being Married Since The Age Of Baby Dolls
And Pigtails, So Once They Begin Dating, Every Guy Becomes A Potential
Prince Charming. As Romantic As The Notion Of Marriage May Be, Most
People Don't Stop To Think If They Are Actually "Marriage Material."
Many Think That Simply Because You Fall In Love And Date For A Year Or
Two, Marriage Is The Natural Next Step- But It's Not For Everyone. If
You DO Decide That Marriage Is In Your Future, Make Sure You're Honest
With Yourself About What You Bring To The Table. After All, You Can't
Attract A Man Who Possesses The Traits Of A Good Husband If You Don't
Display The Traits Yourself (And Of Course The Same Applies To Men).
If You're Unsure, These Signs Indicate That You May Not Make A Good
Wife- And Have Some Work To Do On Yourself Before You Walk The Aisle•
1• YOU ARE SELFISH:
Marriage Is Not Only A Commitment, It's A Haven Where The Essence Of
Love Is In Self-Giving. This Is Not To Suggest That You Should Lose
Yourself In Your Spouse, Which Can Also Be Detrimental To A Marriage.
It Simply Means That If You're Ony Thinking About Yourself, Your
Spouse Becomes An Object- Not A Partner- And Mutual Love Cannot Grow.
If You Want Him To Cater To You COnstantly Without Reciprocating,
You're Not Good When It Comes To Compromise, And You Don't Want To
Share Him With Family Or Friends, Chances Are Your Selfishness Will
Eventually Alienate And Suffocate Him.
Most Selfish Partners Accountable For Their Own Happiness. If You
Don't Remember That You Give Up The "I's " For A "We", You'll Be
Putting Unrealistic Expectation On Your Future Husband To Hold Down
The Marriage On His Own•
2• YOU ARE EXTREMELY JEALOUS:
If You're A Jealous Person By Nature, This Won't Change Once He Puts A
Ring On It - It'll Only Make It Worse. We've All Been A Little Jealous
From Time To Time, And Some May Argue That A Healthy Level Of Jealousy
Is Actually Good For A Relationship.
However, Extreme Jealousy Is A Sign Of Insecurity, And Professing Your
Love Before GOD And 100 Guests In A White Gown Won't Change Feelings
Of Low Self-Esteem Or Inadequacy. Now That He's Not Just Your
Boyfriend, But Your Husband, Your Possessiveness Will Increase Tenfold
And You'll Feel Threatened By Every Woman He Comes In Contact With If
YoU Don't Get A Handle On Your Jealousy Issues. Be Honest With
Yourself And Get Help If Needed•
3• YOU ARE A PARTY GIRL:
Most Men Wouldn't Take Too Kindly To Their Wife Dropping It Like It's
Hot In The Club Every Night. There's Nothing Wrong With Partying And
Having A Good Time, But When You Have A Man At Home Who Wants To Spend
Quality Time With You, It's Not A Good Look. Going Out With Your Girls
From Time To Time Is Great, And He Should Get Out With The Fellas As
Well. No One Is Suggesting That You Cut Off The Rest Of The World
Where You Have No Outlet.
However, The Type Of Outlet And Frequency Should Not Compromise The
Amount Of Time You Spend With Each Other. He May Feel That Stepping
Out To A Club Every Weekend Instead Of Spending Time At Home Is
Disrespectful And That He Isn't A Priority. In Marriage You Need To
Find A Balance And Being Out With Others. If You Haven't Gotten Your
Partying Ways Out Of Your System, You May Want To Give Marriage A
Second Thought•
4• YOU DO NOT LIKE (HIS) CHILDREN:
There Is Nothing Wrong With Not Liking Or Wanting Children - It's Not
For Everyone, And It Doesn't Automatically Exclude You From Being Seen
As Wifey Material.
However, You Have To Keep In Mind That If You're Dating A Man Who
Wants Children, Or Who Has Children Already, And You Don't Like
Children (Or His Children), Then It Won't Matter How Much You Love
HIM... It'll Never Work. He'll Resent You, And You'll Be Miserable.
Children Are A Commitment All On Their Own Aside From Marriage, So If
You Both Aren't United On This Front, The Marriage Will Eventually
Collapse. If He Already Has Children, He May Be Looking To You To Be A
Mother-Figure To His Kids- And If You Don't Like Children, No Matter
How Good Of A Woman You Are, If He Can't See You As A Mother, He Will
Never See You As A WIFE•
5• YOU ARE MATERIALISTIC:
Not Only Do Some Women Dream Of Getting Married, Some Dream Of
Marrying A Wealthy Man - Someone To Take Care Of Them. While There
Nothing Wrong With Wanting A Comfortable In A Relationship, If You
ONLY Marry For Money, You May Be In For A Rude Awakening. Marriage Is
Supposed To Last In Good Times And Bad, In Sickness And In Health And
For Richer OR Poorer. Some Women Only Focus On The "RICHER" Part.
People Who Are Materialistic Tend To Be Narcissistic And Concerned
With Impressing People Rather Than Focusing On Their Partner. And If
Your Spouse Suddenly Loses His Job, The Stock Market Crashes Or IS
Unable TO Maintain Your Extravagant Lifestyle, He May Be Afraid That
You'll Move On To The Next Man With Deeper Pockets. He Needs To Know
That You'll Be Around When Times Get Tough, Not Just When The Money Is
Flowing. If You Can't Support Your Man Through Dificult Financial
Times, Then You Shouldn't Be Walking Down The Aisle. Get You Some
Business And Maintain Yourself... Or Marry A Man Whose Money Is So
Long, You Won't Have To Worry About The "Poorer" Part Of Your VOWS•
6• PROMISCUOUS/CHEATER:
Lets Face It, You Know If You're A Cheater Or Not. This Is Not To Say
That Once A Cheater, Always A Cheater- But Most People Who Are
Repeatedly Unfaithful In Relationships Don't Change Unless They Truly
Are Ready And They Want To. If You WANT To, Then Great - You Can
Change And Be A Great Wife To A Wonderful Man. But If You Haven't
Finished Sowing Your Royal Oats, Then Don't Bring Anyone Else Into
Your Mess. Remain Single Until You Can Remain Faithful•
7• NON-SEXUAL, LOW LIBIDO:
SEX Isn't Everything In A Relationship, But It's Important And Anyone
Who Says Differently Is Either A Virgin Or Is Lying. Marriage Is Made
Up Of Love, Respect, Commitment... And Sex, And If Your Libidos Don't
Match Or Your Sex Drive Is Non-Existent, Chances Are You Probably
Won't Even Make It Past The Courting Stage To A Proposal Unless You
Both Have Taken A Vow Of Celibacy Until Then. Most Couples Relate Each
Other Through Intimacy, So If You Rarely Want To Have Sex, Your
Partner May Feel Disconnected, And He Will Eventually Look For That
Connection Elsewhere. If You Feel That Your Sex Drive Is Abnormally
Low, Check With Your Physician To Make Sure You Are Healthy- Both
Mentally And Physically So That You Can Work This Out Before
Entertaining The Thought Of Eventually Becoming A Wife. The Main Idea
Is Here Is Not To Imply That Being A Good Wife Lies Between Your Legs,
But Instead To Consider Real Life Circumstances When Choosing A Life
Partner•
8• YOU HAVEN'T "FOUND" YOURSELF:
SOMETIMES, The Breaking Point Of A Marriage Comes At The Hands Of One
Person's Realization That They Need To Find Themselves. When Someone
Gets Married Too Young Or For The Wrong Reasons, They Feel Unfulfilled
And Feel The Itch To Do Things They Should Have Done Before They Got
Married. If You Haven't Invested In Yourself And Given Yourself Time
To Grow, Don't Jump Into Marriage•
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